Hi. My name is Jessica and I’m the co-owner of Adorist Weddings and Events. Before I go any further, I have a confession: there’s a tiny part of me that doesn’t think anyone will read this. A tiny voice in my head that doesn’t think anyone cares what I have to say. A teeny, tiny whisper telling me I don’t have anything to say.
You see, my whole life, it’s always been about someone else. My parents. My older brother. My husband. My boss. My pastors. I’m great at telling someone else’s story, but it terrifies me to even think about opening up and telling my story. So, for all of my life (until recently) I told myself I had nothing to say, that no one cares what I think, and that I’m just not that interesting.
Why, then, would a person like me start my own business? Why put myself out there like that? I’ll undoubtedly be the center of attention, so why let people in?
All great questions...ugh.
Long answer - get ready. I felt the pull to create my own business for years, but anytime I entertained the idea, I quickly shut it down. The little voice in my head would chime in and say: “you’re not a leader”, “you should stick to lifting other people up”, “give the glory to those more worthy”. Not exactly super-positive self-talk.
My husband, my family, my friends and my coworkers all saw what I didn’t, and constantly pushed me. Pushed me to the point that it was frustrating. They didn’t understand, they just didn’t get it, why stretch myself - all dumb things the little voice in my head said.
Well, it took me a long time to figure out that the little voice in my head was a liar! That one moment when you turn the page and silence that voice - everything changes. Everything! Planets align, dominoes fall, and suddenly the possibilities are endless.
You know the little strip of lights that guides you down a dark aisle? Once you stop telling yourself you can’t - those turn on! They were there the whole time, you just couldn’t see the light. God will guide you with a well-lit path, you just have to open your eyes and stop telling yourself no! Well, I did, at least.
So, why start my own business?
First, because that’s what I’ve been called to do. That’s where the strip of lights lead me. All of my experience has been building toward this. It’s not that this was a sudden departure. I’ve been building this mountain of knowledge, skills and experience my entire life. I’m not jumping off that mountain - I’m building a house on top of it!
Secondly, remember earlier how I said I’m great at lifting other people up? I LOVE helping others. It’s my passion, it’s my calling, it’s the theme of my life. I’m really good at it. I’m starting a business that will be all about helping others. Weddings and event planning - helping others do something amazing. Making it all about them. Lifting them up on their special day.
All those things I thought were limiting me before - turns out they were preparing me for what was to come! God is pretty cool like that.
So, my name is Jessica. I quit my job as a full-time event planner for a mega-church and started my own company called Adorist Weddings and Events. I’m a leader. I’m a boss. But more importantly - if you need someone to lift you up, I’m the President and CEO of making it all about you!
Hope to hear from you soon!